What to do when Someone Pushes you Away

What to do when someone pushes you away.

This note would look at what to do when someone pushes you away from their life.

So what do you do when someone you love or a group you belongs to shove you away?

A lot of factors could be responsible for this act against you ranging from but not limited to the following: the love between you may have died, they found a new person they are attracted to, you hurt them unknowingly, they feel you are a liability, you radiates negative energy or vibes, a threat to their activities or simply not compatible with them anymore.

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In this article I am going to look at

• Signs someone is pushing you away
• How to react to someone pushing you away
• What to do when someone or a group you belongs to pushes you away

And,

• When someone pushes you away quotes.

Signs Someone is Pushing You Away

When a person you used to have a close relationship with suddenly begins to show these signs it means they are tired of you and may not want your companionship again. However, how you react to these signs would go a long way to determine the survival of your relationship with them. 

Below are some examples of the signs someone would display when they don’t want to have any to do with you.

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• Reduce Communication: When someone wants to push you away from their lives it starts with reducing Communication. They start by cutting off communication with you and make it difficult for meaningful discussion to take place between you. When you notice this, know that the person or people if they are in a group are trying to cut you off.
• Emotional Distance: When someone you love or are close to, all of a sudden starts making themselves emotionally unavailable, it is a sure sign that they don’t want you again. Emotional distance can be very hurtful when the object of your love is closed by in physical presence but they have disconnected and detached themselves emotionally from you.
• Canceling Plans: When someone doesn’t want to be close to you, they start canceling the plans you people had together when things were rosy. They find excuses for everything that involves you all in a bid to avoid that affinity. 
• Decline in Affection:  Reduce or no affection is a sign that they are trying to push you away. When the person you are close with either in a relationship or work suddenly withdraws their affection for you, it is time to pay attention. Paying attention can help you nip the issue in the bud before it becomes full scale animosity.
• Increased Irritability: When you notice they start getting irritated with your presence or the things you do around them, know that it is a sign of a bigger issue to come. This is the time to shape up or ship out.
• Secretive Behavior: When someone is tired of you, they suddenly start exhibiting strange behavior patterns. They become secretive and don’t want you to know what they are up to. This may include hiding their phones, coming back late without saying where they have been, and keeping mute about happenings around them.
• Lack of Interest: When a person wants to push you away they exhibit a lack of interest in you and your activities. Whatever you do is none of their business. This is because they have withdrawn their affection and nothing about you is a priority to them.

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How To React To Someone Pushing You Away

Sometimes handling emotional issues calls for a high sense of maturity. Whether you can mend the cracks in your relationship or allow them to snowball into a mountain depends on the steps you take.

Here are a few steps you can take when you start seeing those cracks in the wall.

• Communicating With Them: Communication can solve a lot of issues if the parties involved can be matured enough to travel this path. Old issues and gray areas can be unearthed and resolved. While the way forward charted. Communication and dialogue is an age long conflict resolution technique.
• Stay Calm and Be Patient: Tension and impatience can blur sound reasoning and lead to hasty decisions. When you see the above signs in your relationship with people, stay calm while you analyze the real reasons and consider the options before you. 
• Offer To Help Them: Sometimes when people exhibit these character traits, it could be a sign of an underlying issue in their personal lives. When you are calm and explore the benefits of communication, you may come up with the reasons they are behaving that way towards you. You may offer to help them with the issues they are going through. But it’s left for them to accept your help or decline it.
• Give Them Space: Whatever happens, giving people space can help you and them process the issues at stake. Not forcing yourself or decisions on them can make them feel they are in charge, this can subsequently allow them to open up to you because they know you will not judge them or their decisions.
• Re evaluate The Relationship: There’s a need to take a second look at gray areas in your relationship with people. What is the cause of the problems? What is your responsibility in it? What can you do to ameliorate the situation? Is the relationship an abusive one? Is there a better option if you decide to end it? These questions are worth considering if you want a healthy relationship.
• Self-care: Your health should be your top priority in life. If you don’t take care of yourself nobody will, therefore, self-care should be your number one priority if you want to be happy, productive, and be useful to life. Do not let an unhealthy relationship dull your shine. Instead, allow them to go, to maintain your mental,  physical and emotional balance.

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When Someone Pushes You Away Quotes 

• “I push everyone I love away. “He shrugged.” I don’t mind you pushing me away if it means you love me, little sister.” – Kristin Cashore
• “Love won’t be tampered with, love won’t go away. Push it to one side and it creeps to the other.” – Louise Erdrich
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t take it personally. It’s usually about them, not you.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s a sign that they’re not ready for love. Don’t force them. Give them space.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t lose hope. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s a sign that you need to focus on your own happiness. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, it’s a gift. It means that you’re one step closer to finding someone who will love you for who you are.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t give up on yourself. You deserve to be loved and cherished.” – Unknown
• “Sometimes the people who push us away are the ones who need us the most.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s important to give them space. But don’t disappear completely. Let them know that you’re still there for them when they’re ready.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault. You can’t save everyone.” – Unknown
• “You can’t always be pushing people away. Someday nobody’ll come back.” – Jacqueline Woodson
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel hurt. Just don’t let those emotions control you.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, it’s important to forgive them. Forgiveness is for you, not them.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s important to learn from the experience. What can you do differently next time?” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, it’s important to move on. There are other people who will love and appreciate you for who you are.” – Unknown

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• “When someone pushes you away, it’s important to remember that you are enough. You are worthy of love and happiness.” – Unknown
• “The quickest path to self-destruction is to push away the people you love.” – Cassia Leo
• “It amazes me how easy it can be to push away someone you love… The weight from insecurities and jealousy can be toxic and will destroy everything in its path, if you allow it… Let go…either release it or move on, but let go and allow your heart to fall in love again…” – Karen Kostyla
• “Don’t push that person further who truly value you so much, because one day, from pushing them further, they will never come back again.”- Jeremy Legend
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t let them define you. You are more than they will ever know.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s important to remember that you are strong and resilient. You will get through this.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s not always because they don’t care. Sometimes it’s because they care too much.” – Anonymous
• “Pushing people away is a way of telling yourself that you don’t deserve happiness.” – Unknown
• “If someone keeps pushing you away, it’s because they don’t know how to let you in.” – Unknown
• “Pushing people away is easy, but letting them in takes courage.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s often because they’re afraid of getting hurt. Be patient and understanding, and let them know that you’re there for them.” – Unknown
• “It’s okay to love someone who pushes you away. Just don’t let them break you.” – Unknown
• “I don’t draw attention to myself or have security pushing people away.” – Vanessa L. Williams
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s important to remember that you can’t control their behavior. You can only control your own.” – Unknown
• “You can only push a girl away for so long before she turns and walks away. Make sure it’s what you want because when she leaves, she’s gone forever.” – Unknown
• “When we judge, we are pushing people away; we are creating a wall, a barrier. When we forgive we are destroying barriers, we come closer to others.”- Jean Vanier
• “I just wanted you to know that it’s not you. It’s me. It’s all me, and if I push you away it’s because I don’t know how to pull you close. I’m not . . . I’m not good with people.” – Jessica Clare
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t chase them. Focus on your own happiness and healing.” – Unknown
• “You can’t force someone to love you or want to be with you. If they’re pushing you away, it’s time to let go.” – Unknown
• “It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused when someone pushes you away. Just don’t let those emotions consume you.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, don’t lose hope. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are.” – Unknown
• “When someone pushes you away, it’s a sign that you need to focus on your own happiness. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you.” – Unknown
• “If someone pushes you away, it’s a gift. It means that you’re one step closer to finding someone who will love you for who you are.” – Unknown“When someone pushes you away, remember that it’s their own way of protecting themselves from getting hurt again.” –Unknown
• “We push away those who care about us the most because we fear getting too attached.”
• “I was so awash in sensory overload that I was caught completely unaware when he did push me away.” – Richelle Mead
• “Pushing away unwanted feelings and situations, equals inviting them to return back with a greater strength.”- Raphael Zernoff
• “You just keep pushing. You just keep pushing. I made every mistake that could be made. But I just kept pushing.”- Rene Descartes
• “By pushing or forcing something upon people, you tend to push people further away.”- Christopher Atkins

What To Do When You Are Rejected.

There are a lot of ways to change  and become a person of value–someone who they cannot do away with because they needs your input in their lives.

A person who is a liability and valueless to the course of others is soon dispense with and treated with disdain.

The world will beat a retreat to your doorsteps if you have something to offer it.

There are different reasons why people and individuals build relationships and network and when you no longer meet the criteria you are shove away like a debris.

Most relationships are symbiotic and others parasitic. What does this mean? Its means most relationships or network exist to benefit all involved. While others exist to benefit one party.

When someone pushes you away it could mean you no longer serve their purpose, or you have become a parasite to them.

However, we want to change this, we want to become a person who impact lives.

We are now going to look at what to do when someone pushes you away.

These steps can turn you from an ordinary person into a person of influence but whose sole aim is to serve life and make the world better.

In working to position yourself as a valuable person, you also develop top notch qualities like love, compassion, inner strength, freedom and inner peace. These qualities are necessary if you want to impact lives. You can’t give what you don’t have anyway.

•  The Quality of Your Life Is the Quality of Your Relationship.

What to do when someone pushes you away– increase the general quality of your life. This then reflects on the quality of your relationship or network. A person that has unique qualities in their lives always extend these to every areas and are respected by others. This meticulously attracts people that place a high premium on quality and all the things that make life worthwhile. If you always see your life as a project and a work in progress, you would give yourself the best chance to excel and perform at the best level you are capable of.

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There are inmense benefits that come to you when you strive to inculcate and imbibe excellence and discipline in all you do.

It could be the passport to a better and richer network as well as courting the relationship of people whose lives are masterpiece.

You can then leverage on the brain power and connection as well as resources to achieve your fondest goals and desires.

Tony Robbins told the story of how his mentor Jim Rohn advised him at the beginning of his career and when he was struggling to feed his family to seek out people with the right qualities and spend time with them. At this time Robbins was struggling to feed himself and his family with the meagre money he was then earning. However, after he took the advice of Jim Rohn and started hanging out with people who possessed the exact qualities he sought for in himself the association paid off as they took a company public.

This changed the course of his life and put millions of dollars in his bank account.

Note here that Anthony Robbins was accepted into the group because he has something to offer, he didn’t join the group and build the relationship to be a parasite to other members of the group.

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•  Your Personal Choices Matters.

Remember the personal choices you make determines whether the people in your life would hold you in high esteem and accord you respect or whether they would see you as a loafer who does not demand to be respected.

Let your personal choices reflect the qualities and ideal you stand for. As these choices should be devoid of selfish inclinations and personal aggrandizement.

Your state of consciousness ought to be your level of acceptance and acceptance is the key to truly be free.

What do I mean here? You can only accept what is within your context and content. The personal choices you make in your life therefore reflects this. Simply put if your content is deep the choices you make would be deep and would impact your relationship.

•  Go after want you Want with Vigor

Why expend your energy to getting the other person to like you and accept you when you can use the same energy to pursue your goals. Putting your energy and trying to achieve a worthy goal would make your life a masterpiece. And you will horn your skills and engage your creative powers and potentials in the process.

If you want something so badly, you should rise above the fear of failure and find away to achieve it. The adage “where there’s a will a way will be found” come handy here.
When you are rejected , instead feeling sorry for yourself go and pursue a goal that will demand your best efforts and put you in a better stead to attract the people that will believe in you as well as value your input and service to life.

When Strive Masiyiwa’s Econet group began operation in Zimbabwe, several obstacles were thrown in their path by the Government. This lead to several litigations between him and Government. However, he left Zimbabwe to go and pursue his company’s goals elsewhere. One of these is acquiring and winning the license to operate Boswana’s first mobile network.

Strive didn’t cry and beg the Government that pushes him away. Instead he went on to tap into the opportunities and abundance that are abound in the world.

When going after what you want, don’t wish for it work for it. If you do, like strive Masiyiwa you could achieve bigger dreams thereby making those who pushes you away to want to come back into your circle of influence.

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•  Living an Impactful Life

Living an Impactful life simply means making things better than you met it. If you live a life of impact to the society no one can push you away because you won’t  be playing in the same league with them and you will be above them in quality and substance.

History is repleted with people whose life impacted the world greatly.

Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, St. Francis Asisi to mention a few. These people changed their day and the course of history with their milk of kindness, equity and fairness.

These people are worthy role model anyone can emulate. Instead of feeling bitter and worrying over the act of injustice done to you by small minded people, go your way and give a smile and a listening ear to those who needs them.

• Be Somebody Nobody thought you could be

It’s always better to exceeds the expectations people holds about you. In life, work or school it’s better to do more than is required of you at all times.

To be somebody nobody thought you could be required an extra effort and working harder than the rest of the pack. It may require staying late to work on some projects and doing the hardest part of work nobody wanted to do.

This may require a paradigm shift and a change of attitude from the old ways to a new one.

Some years ago, I had a classmate in high school who always had a hand in every negative thing happening in school.

He was always in a fight and sat pretty well at the bottom of the class. Throughout junior high school he continued on a downward spiral until he was expelled from school and expected to end up in jail.

But a few years later his story had changed and exceeded our expectations of him. For a long time we didn’t hear from this dude. Unbeknownst to us his life had undergone a complete transformation.

I don’t know what happened to him, but he surprised everyone who knew him earlier as he became so successful in life. He became somebody nobody thought he could be.

He took his life from rock bottom to the top. And from time to time his company is involved in corporate social responsibility (CSR) in different communities impacting the lives of school children in the third world.

However, most of us former classmates who thought we had it figured out are still trying to find our feet and a platform to build our lives on.

Part of what to do when someone pushes you away is to exceeds their expectations of you. To do this is to rise above the victim consciousness and entitled mentality. Know that you have the capacity to reshape your life however you want it. You only need the awareness of the powers you possess within you.

So now from this moment, walk and behave as though the world needs you and not the other way round. Do this with humility and gratitude for this awareness. And never begrudge those that swept you under the carpet because they thought they have arrived. Instead shower everyone you meet with charity and divine love. If you do this you would discovered and revel in prosperity in a new dawn of abundance.

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