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What to do when someone pushes you away.
This note would look at what to do when someone pushes you away from their life. So what do you do when someone or a group you use to belong to shove you away? I believe the reason they can do this to you varies from a number of reasons which could be because they feel you are a liability, radiates negative energy or vibes, a threat to their activities or simply not compatible with them anymore.
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However, there are a lot of ways to change these and become a person of value–someone who they cannot do away with because they needs your input in their lives.
A person who is a liability and valueless to the course of others is soon dispense with and treated with disdain.
The world will beat a retreat to your doorsteps if you have something to offer it.
There are different reasons why people and individuals build relationships and network and when you no longer meet the criteria you are shove away like a shovel shoveling debris.
Most relationships are symbiotic and others parasitic. What does this mean? Its means most relationships or network exist to benefit all involved. While others exist to benefit one party. When someone pushes you away it could mean you no longer serve their purpose, or you have become a parasite to them.
However, we want to change this, we want to become a person who impact lives.
We are now going to look at what to do when someone pushes you away.
These steps can turn you from an ordinary person into a person of influence but whose sole aim is to serve life and make the world better.
In working to position yourself as a valuable person, you also develop top notch qualities like love, compassion, inner strength, freedom and inner peace. These qualities are necessary if you want to impact lives. You can’t give what you don’t have anyway.
The Quality of Your Life Is the Quality of Your Relationship.
What to do when someone pushes you away– increase the general quality of your life. This then reflects on the quality of your relationship or network. A person that has unique qualities in their lives always extend these to every areas and are respected by others. This meticulously attracts people that place a high premium on quality and all the things that make life worthwhile. If you always see your life as a project and a work in progress, you would give yourself the best chance to excel and perform at the best level you are capable of.
There are inmense benefits that come to you when you strive to inculcate and imbibe excellence and discipline in all you do.
It could be the passport to a better and richer network as well as courting the relationship of people whose lives are masterpiece. You can then leverage on the brain power and connection as well as resources to achieve your fondest goals and desires.
Tony Robbins told the story of how his mentor Jim Rohn advised him at the beginning of his career and when he was struggling to feed his family to seek out people with the right qualities and spend time with them. At this time Robbins was struggling to feed himself and his family with the meagre money he was then earning. However, after he took the advice of Jim Rohn and started hanging out with people who possessed the exact qualities he sought for in himself the association paid off as they took a company public.
This changed the course of his life and put millions of dollars in his bank account. Note here that Anthony Robbins was accepted into the group because he has something to offer, he didn’t join the group and build the relationship to be a parasite to other members of the group.
Your Personal Choices Matters.
What to do when someone pushes you away–Remember the personal choices you make determines whether the people in your life would hold you in high esteem and accord you respect or whether they would see you as a loafer who does not demand to be respected.
Let your personal choices reflect the qualities and ideal you stand for. As these choices should devoid of selfish inclinations and personal aggrandizement.
Your state of consciousness ought to be your level of acceptance and acceptance is the key to truly be free. What do I mean here? You can only accept what is within your context and content. The personal choices you make in your life therefore reflects this. Simply put if your content is deep the choices you make would be deep and would impact your relationship.
Go after want you Want with Vigor
Why expend your energy to getting the other person to like you and accept you when you can use the same energy to pursue your goals. Putting your energy and trying to achieve a worthy goal would make your life a masterpiece. And you will horn your skills and engage your creative powers and potentials in the process.
If you want something so badly, you should rise above the fear of failure and find away to achieve it The adage “where there’s a will a way will be found” come handy here.
When someone pushes you away, instead feeling sorry for yourself go and pursue a kind of goal that will demand your best efforts and put you in a better stead to attract the people that will believe in you as well as value your input and service to life.
When Strive Masiyiwa’s Econet group began operation in Zimbabwe, several obstacles were thrown in their path by the Government. This lead to several litigations between him and Government. However, he left Zimbabwe to go and pursue his company’s goals elsewhere. One of these is acquiring and winning the license to operate Boswana’s first mobile network.
Strive didn’t cry and beg the Government that pushes him away. Instead he went on to tap into the opportunities and abundance that are abound in the world.
When going after what you want, don’t wish for it work for it. If you do, like strive Masiyiwa you could achieve bigger dreams thereby making those who pushes you away to want to come back into your circle of influence.
Living an Impactful Life
Living an Impactful life simply means making things better than you met it. If you live a life of impact to the society no one can push you away because you won’t be be playing in the same league with them and you will be above them in quality and substance.
History is repleted with people whose life impacted the world greatly. Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, St. Francis Asisi to mention a few. These people changed their day and the course of history with their milk of kindness, equity and fairness. These people are worthy role model anyone can emulate. Instead of feeling bitter and worrying over the act of injustice done to you by small minded people, go your way and give a smile and a listening ear to those who needs them.
Be Somebody Nobody thought you could be
It’s always better to exceeds the expectations people holds about you. In life, work or school it’s better to do more than is required of you at all times.
To be somebody nobody thought you could be required an extra effort and working harder than the rest of the pack. It may require staying late to work on some projects and doing the hardest part of work nobody wanted to do.
This may require a paradigm shift and a change of attitude from the old ways to a new one.
Some years ago, I had a classmate in high school who always had a hand in every negative thing happening in school. He was always in a fight and sat pretty well at the bottom of the class. Throughout junior high school he continued on a downward spiral until he was expelled from school and expected to end up in jail. But a few years later his story had changed and exceeded our expectations of him. For a long time we didn’t hear hear from this dude. Unbeknownst to us his life had undergone a complete transformation.
I don’t know what happened to him, but he surprised everyone who knew him earlier as he became so successful in life. He became somebody nobody thought he could be. He took his life from rock bottom to the top. And from time to time his company is involved in corporate social responsibility (CSR) in different communities impacting the lives of school children in the third world.
However, most of us former classmates who thought we had it figured out are still trying to find our feet and a platform to build our lives on.
Part of what to do when someone pushes you away is to exceeds their expectations of you. To do this is to rise above the victim consciousness and entitled mentality. Know that you have the capacity to reshape your life however you want it. You only need the awareness of the powers you possess within you.